Hi, I'm Danielle
A little story about me...
Like you, I’m living the human experience. And perhaps like you, my human experience has a dimmer side. You know the place. Where you live in the shadow of a more polished and perfect self, like a silhouette. Where you try to hide behind what you think you should be, letting the outside world define you.
I’ve been there. I’ve suffered from it. And I’ve found a way to live in harmony with it.
Years ago, I was in college working towards medical school, aspiring to be a neurosurgeon. I was not just going to be a doctor, but the most distinguished kind of doctor, what I perceived to be the most difficult to attain. But camped out in front of my MCAT book one day, something about it felt wrong. Like I was wearing someone else’s skin. I realized suddenly that a neurosurgeon was not who I was supposed to be, not how I was supposed to serve the world. After the many years of path-setting that brought me to that point, I closed the book and walked away. Then I dissolved.
For the next several years, I struggled to reshape my identity. I experimented with different health care and care taking roles and got close to people that struggled with pain and suffering. I wanted to help them, to solve a problem. And this problem solving habit bled into how I was handling my identity crisis. If I could only fix this (my body, my profession, my marital status, my living situation, my pain etc), then. . . happiness?
Reeling, I let my inner critic take over. The most manipulative voice in my head became my guide–and that asshole crushed me.
I had worked myself ragged, aiming for the pinnacle of everything I did—school, career, homemaking, motherhood, entertaining down to the Martha Stewart perfect party list. My body was taking a toll and I refused to acknowledge it, until I my body stopped working, stopped performing, stopped functioning as it should. Stopped.
Then truly all the things that now defined me, my external pursuits weren't there. I had nowhere to go but inward. I practiced yoga and meditated. I rejected and then finally embraced my pain, I forced myself to be with thoughts and emotions that seemed so uncomfortable, that I thought they might swallow me up. I practiced self-compassion and mindfulness, I dove into life coaching, and began rewiring my brain to notice the self-critic, and say kindly and politely “I appreciate you trying to keep me safe, but no thank you, not today.”
I learned the tremendous connection between mental, physical, and emotional health.
Only when I learned to befriend the inner scrutiny, perfectionism, and approval seeking fears did my true calling become clear. Finally seeing my wiser true self behind what I had created, I found a desire to guide others through similar, debilitating, self-imposed hurdles.
As a practicing life and mind-body coach, I help others overcome life’s challenges by using methods that brought me back from the ‘point of no return’. That point where you feel like an imposter, because that is who you have become, and the real you is lost.
I recognize that each person’s struggle is unique and demands equally unique self-work programs, whether it’s through 1-on-1 coaching, personal growth workshops, or classes on mindfulness or meditation. I encourage honesty, compassion and self-work. I’m a real person, with a real life and I want my clients to feel comfortable being real with me.
I also have a sister site that focuses on pleasure, sensuality, and the powerful force of the woman. Check it out here.
I am a certified Martha Beck Life Coach and an Anamsong trained Mind-Body Coach. I live in gorgeous Portland, OR with my two young daughters, my husband, and my pitbull Toula. I have been studying and practicing yoga and meditation for a decade and completed my 200 hour yoga teacher training in 2012. I have continued to increase my knowledge base by training and learning through a variety of world-renowned leaders in meditation, self-compassion, mind/body, and self-help including Martha Beck, Rick Hanson, Kristin Neff, and Christopher Germer. My biology and neuroscience background complement these ancient teachings and modern approaches and allow me to create a nice bridge between science and the ‘woo-woo’. I know nearly every word to Dr. Dre's 2001 Chronic album, (better believe it). I grew up on Star Trek: Next Generation and the original. My favorite drink is anything with whiskey. My approach is matter-of-fact, personable, humorous and sprinkled with a sh*t load of love.
I serve any individual who:
- Seeks clarity in life and their role in it.
- Seeks more confidence, is tired of perfectionism, and is sick of all the "shoulds"
- Wants perspective on their own life challenges.
- Wishes to get in touch with his or her inner wisdom and be brave enough to dream big.
- Longs to get out of their minds and into their lives.
- Is actively involved in making this world a better place and needs tools for resilience, compassion, steadfastness and courage.
- Is uncomfortable in their body, whether it be from anxiety, stress, chronic pain, or postpartum changes
- Wants a more pleasurable and joyous life!
I help my clients get beyond the should mentality in order to find lightness. Don’t stay trapped in the shadowy side of life. Let’s work together to change your story.