One of the most, and I would argue THE most, common thought I see standing in the way of desire is thinking of sex as pleasure for someone other than you. That is not thinking of sex as an act for YOUR pleasure. All of the "shoulds" come out - you should be more sexual, sex is something you should be doing for a good marriage, I should want it. These "shoulds" all indicate and underlying lack of belief that sex is in fact about your own pleasure. And when you approach it as such, the best sex of your life is possible, as one of my clients recently discovered.
Also I announce the winner of the $250 sensual escape voucher as well. Thanks again for all the rules.