Ep. 28: Believing That Pleasure is Possible

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To start things off, I have a huge announcement. My good friend and coaching colleague and I are doing a retreat in Palm Springs in November. This is a pleasure and profit planning retreat. Our focus is that you walk away with your plan for 2020. And not only that, but that you have the tools to see results in your business and your pleasure. If you want more information, email me at daniellesavorycoaching@gmail.com

In this episode, I want to talk about the belief in the possibility of pleasure. Belief is much harder than we think, and to believe that pleasure is possible eliminates the first roadblock keeping you from it. I share the details of how to know you’re not believing, why it’s so important, and the first steps you can take to begin having amazing sex.

Topics in this episode

  • Why belief should be a part of your mental strategy

  • Belief can be fleeting

  • The role of cognitive dissonance 

  • Signs you don’t believe pleasure is possible

  • Ask yourself, if I believed pleasure was possible, how would things be different?

  • Progression of thought starts with possibility

  • Recognizing the signs of the mind shift

Ep. 27: A New Take On Oral with CEO Melanie Cristol

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In this episode, I’m so excited to share with you the conversation I had with Melanie Cristol, founder and CEO of Lorals. In her role as a peer sex educator in college, one product that came up occasionally was the dental dam. It is a flappy sheet of rubber that is used during oral sex on a person with a vagina. It can be inconvenient and uncomfortable to use, and she knew she wanted to create a product to help women and people with vaginas experience more pleasure during intimacy. 

Lorals are incredibly silky panties that are designed to maximize sensations and minimize worries while you are receiving oral sex. In addition to sharing her journey from how she went from being a lawyer to an entrepreneur, she also details the personal skills she possesses that prepared her for creating a product in a taboo space. 

Topics in this episode

  • Difficulties in using and buying dental dams that inspired her to create a new product

  • Reasons why people turn down oral sex, and how Lorals can help solve those problems

  • Overcoming “who am I?”

  • How Tourettes has given her the courage to be able to create a product in a taboo space

  • Why it’s important to have more “taboo” conversations, especially for people with vaginas 

  • Defining and discussing the pleasure-gap

  • Benefits of orgasms, and how love and intimacy leads to a healthy and happier life for people 


To learn more about Lorals

Website: https://mylorals.com/

Instagram: @mylorals https://www.instagram.com/mylorals/?hl=en

Twitter: @mylorals https://twitter.com/MyLorals

Ep. 26: Elevating Your (Sex) Life PT 3: Becoming Embodied

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This is the last installment of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. In part one we focused on becoming the observer and allowing yourself that ability to start noticing what’s happening in your mind. Last week we talked about purposefully redirecting your attention to the type of thoughts that will deliver your desired results. 

This episode we cover what it means to become embodied and how to start experiencing what it’s like to be human in this human form, and opening up to sensations. We focus on what it means to be present to your sensations, and what happens to your brain when you do. I share with you how to tap into and lean these sensations, and 3 practices to help build the foundational skill.

Topics in this episode

  • Definition of being embodied

  • Levels of embodiment

  • Enteroception

  • Noticing resistance

  • How to mindfully attend to your emotions

  • Finding the parts of your body that feel pleasurable

  • Managing emotions

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be here with you. I have absolutely loved offering you this three-part series about building the foundational skills to elevate your sex life, business, and your overall existence. I hope what you’ve learned today will help guide you to becoming more embodied so that you can experience all the pleasure your body has to offer you. If you’re loving this podcast and what you’re learning and you’re ready to take it deeper, then you should reach out for one-on-one coaching. To learn more, go here to http://daniellesavory.com/coaching.

Ep. 25: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt. 2 Capturing Your Attention

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This is part two of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. Part one was about bringing your thoughts to the forefront of your awareness. Once you are aware of your thoughts, you can capture your attention in order to shift your mindset, which we cover in this episode. 

Our mindset is made up of thoughts we think over and over that create our beliefs, and these collections of thoughts and beliefs create an overall disposition that will create a reaction to particular events, and can also show up in our behavior. As it applies to sex, your mindset can affect your attitude and disposition. So it is important to take a look at all of the learned beliefs and how you can change them in order to have mind-blowing sex. 

Topics in the episode

  • Recap of part 1 in the series

  • Definition of mindset

  • How mindset applies to sex

  • The benefit and act of writing down your observations

  • Noticing the reaction to your thoughts 

  • The role of Cognitive dissonance in your sex life 

  • Noticing what is capturing your attention, and redirecting your mind on thoughts that will serve you 

I hope this episode is going to help you capture your attention back so that you can get to your desired result. If you’re loving this podcast and what you’re learning on here, and are ready to apply it at a deeper level to experience mind-blowing sex and success, I encourage you to reach out for one-on-one coaching. This is where we take the work even deeper, and you’re going to see massive changes in all areas of your life. To learn more, go to http://daniellesavory.com/coaching.

Ep. 24: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt 1- Becoming The Observer

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There are three main skill sets needed to create the most mind-blowing sex life and honestly life in general. This episode is the first of three part series and is all about how to become an observer of the mind. My experience as a long time meditator as well as a meditation and mindfulness instructor has allowed me to not only become keenly aware of my mental happenings but to help others do the same. So what does watching your mind have to do with having an amazing sex life? Tune in to find out and how you can start becoming a witness to your mind or hone your skills more so that you can apply them to your pursuit of pleasure.

Ep. 23: Taking Responsibility For Your Sexual Pleasure

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When you decide to create a better sex life than the one you are currently experiencing then taking responsibility for your pleasure is essential. But we don't automatically do this, in fact we blame our sexual pleasure on almost everything else! Listen in on this empowering episode and starting taking your sexual pleasure BACK!

Please note: possible trigger warning. Mention of sexual assault.

Ep. 22: Sex As YOUR Pleasure

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One of the most, and I would argue THE most, common thought I see standing in the way of desire is thinking of sex as pleasure for someone other than you. That is not thinking of sex as an act for YOUR pleasure. All of the "shoulds" come out - you should be more sexual, sex is something you should be doing for a good marriage, I should want it. These "shoulds" all indicate and underlying lack of belief that sex is in fact about your own pleasure. And when you approach it as such, the best sex of your life is possible, as one of my clients recently discovered.

Also I announce the winner of the $250 sensual escape voucher as well. Thanks again for all the rules.

Ep. 21: Increasing Desire - Never Saying No

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The biggest issue that my clients comes to me with is lack of desire. They have achieved so much in their business and life but find that they simply don't "want" it that much. And they want to want it. I mean don't we all? But we think that desire is this thing that just overcomes us and when it doesn't we are afraid that there must be something wrong. In this episode I begin to explore the topic of desire and offer one of my common practices called "Never Say No" which is aimed to help brake the mental habit of blocking desire and the action we take of "saying no" on autopilot.

Ep. 20: The Sexually Empowered Mama. Interview with Mahsa

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Ugh this conversation with the amazing Mahsa Darabi was so much FUN! Mahsa immigrated to the US from Iran when she was 7 years old and despite being the butt of many jokes in her youth for being "weird" she became a successful model and actress. Enjoy this talk I have with a dear friend and former client as we chat about how her definition of beauty changed despite the industry she was in and her transformation into becoming a sexually empowered woman after having children. 

Ep 19: A Sexy and Loving Mind

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Why what you THINK will literally make or break your sex life. This is an episode that is NOT to be missed. Listen in on my philosophy about mindset and how it is the BIGGEST factor in determining whether or not you have a fabulous and blah sex life. No, I am not lying - manage your mind and have mind-blowing sex - promise. Listen in to figure out how.

Ep 18: Letting Go of Control

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What would happen if you didn't have to keep yourself "in line"? Many people don't consciously think that they are trying to control everything around them, until they take a closer look and realize, that they are, in fact desperately trying to hold on to control. Because perhaps the fear is that if you let go of that control you might not stay motivated, or are afraid to see what is on the other side of really releasing your grip. What would happen if perhaps you kept allowing stimulation after orgasm?  Or when something feels new? Or when you can seem to relax and just receive? In this episode we explore the mindset of control and despite your best efforts how it is keeping you from realizing your pleasure potential.

Ep. 16: Decluttering for Pleasure

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Ugh why isn't pleasure happening? Well likely the same reason that calm isn't happening in your house, because there is too much shit crowding every single corner. In this episode learn exactly how you can begin to create the right type of environment that pleasure might actually exist in. It may sound boring, but this is EVERYTHING!! 

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If you wanted to get in touch with my amazing organizer and live in the Portland Metro area hit Sarah up at simplyreorg.com

Ep. 15: Interview with Lora DiCarlo

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Holy sh*t this interview, with badass boss Lora Haddock CEO and Founder of Lora DiCarlo was so much fun! We talk about how her and her team created the revolutionary hand frees robotic tool made to bring about the ever coveted blended orgasm, swoon! How this genius invention won a prestigious award and then was swiftly take away for, wait for it . . . being profane. And this my friends is what is at the heart of the issue of women going after and owning their pleasure. Hope you enjoy this tantalizing conversation of brilliance, bossing and bias. 

Ep. 14: Interview with Marriage Mentor Maggie Reyes

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If you are looking for any tips on how to have a brilliant marriage filled with love and pleasure then Maggie has the answers for you! Seriously. She does. Like allllll the answers. She is a marriage and relationship expert and I love our conversation - how to talk to your partner about sex and pleasure, how to notice and close up those loops that may be keeping you from pleasure, and how impactful a delicious sex life can ACTUALLY be in your marriage, health and impact on the world.

To access the link Maggie mentioned in the interview please visit  https://modernmarried.com/creatingsafety


Maggie Reyes is a Certified Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who helps smart women have better marriages. Her romantic-yet-practical approach to love has appeared in numerous publications including Brides, Bustle, Lifehacker, Martha Stewart Weddings and the nationally syndicated radio show Day Break USA. She loves super hero movies and chocolate. You can find her online in her free group The Better Marriage Club on Facebook.

Ep. 13: Why Pleasurable Sex is Important For Your Growth

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We make time for what is important to us, even though our time is usually consumed by the things the brain labels as urgent. And the fact of the matter is, for most entrepreneurs and those of us with a lot on our plates SEX doesn't make the cut - in either category - urgent or important. But why not? Sex - pleasurable sex - is the connector of every single desirable trait we want to have in our lives and our business - don't believe me? Listen in and find out why sex should 100% be considered important.

Ep. 12: Finding Pleasure In The Midst of Pain

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It's easy to believe that pleasure is unattainable when we are experiencing physical pain - that perhaps it is not accessible to us. It can become a reason to shut down the possibility of pleasure in our bodies because we hurt. And boy do I know this story well. In this episode I share my personal struggles with physical pain and how I was able to find a delicious harmony of pleasure and pain in my body. Listen in to learn how to begin to experience pleasure alongside your pain or health issues.

Ep. #11: "Do Not Disturb" . . . Vacay Sex

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Vacay and sex seem to go hand in hand for many couples - and why shouldn't it, it can be oh so good. In this episode we explore what happens to make vacation sex oh so good and what keeps you cumming back for more. Also how can we get a little more of that at home? Listen in as I break down some common things that happen while on vacation, the mindset behind it and how you can specifically recreate the magic in your own home. 

Download the companion worksheet below to investigate further what turns you on about vacation sex and how you can bring more of that home!

Ep. #10: The Felt Sense with Rachel Sample

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In this special inaugural interview episode, I am joined by the founder of The Felt Sense, Rachel Sample. We discuss the importance of creating safe and welcoming spaces for conversations to emerge around sensuality and sexuality and how The Felt Sense was born. The assumptions made about women who speak openly about sexuality, erotic story telling versus porn, and of course the patriarchy of pleasure. You will be sure to fall in love with Rachel, her sassy and smart approach to sexuality and the open discourse we need in today's world.

For more on Rachel, her offerings and to download her audible erotic stories please visit thefeltsense.com

Ep. #9: To Schedule or Not To Schedule

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Scheduling sex? Um no thanks! If that is your immediate response you are so not alone. I used to turn my nose all the way up to planning or scheduling anything especially sex. But why might this help you get your groove on? And no it isn't just about getting that date night on the calendar - it goes so much deeper than that. Listen on and find out why!