Ep. 75: Truth Bombs About Who Benefits

I recently wrapped up the first of my group coaching programs, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I want to start this episode by sharing feedback from one of the participants who said that she embarked on this journey because she saw how important it was for her husband. Now, after completing the program, she says that it is her favorite gift she’s ever given to herself. In the beginning, she was curious to see if sex was something that she could enjoy, not just something that was for her husband. Through this coaching, she now thinks about sex more often and learned that she actually likes sex a lot.

Which is what leads us to the topic of this episode. I hear from many women that they want to pursue coaching and investing in their sexuality because it will benefit their husbands or partners. The motivation for these women is that this investment is a good idea, simply because it will benefit the people around them, without really thinking about themselves. Listeners, I want to share with you that while of course, this kind of work can have a positive ripple effect on those around you, you should pursue this simply for your own pleasure. You are reason enough. 

Topics in this episode 

• We see sex for the husband and partner, rather than the possibility of it being pleasurable for ourselves
• Our sexuality and sensuality can be for the benefit of us
• We aren’t simply objects of desire.
• How might you be seeing your pleasure as a way to benefit him, to benefit your partner, rather than something for you?
• The deep transformation of saying yes to you

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to explain to you why your pleasure is enough of a reason. Really think about how you are using the idea of benefiting others for motivation to drive your sexual journey, and how powerful of a shift of your mind it can be when you simply say, “I’m going to benefit, and that’s a good enough reason”.