Ep. 78: Sex Life on a Pedestal

I was talking with a woman the other day and she told me she has had an amazing sex life before. She has felt sexually alive in her body. She also told me that for a variety of reasons, she just doesn’t feel like that person anymore. She feels disconnected from her past-self, but she knows that it can be better again. This conversation is an example of what I’m calling the “pedestal effect”, putting a past version or a future version of yourself, and what is possible for you, on a pedestal. In this episode, I share with you why this can be a problem, and how to look at your current state and the current level of happiness with your sex life with love and appreciation, and why that is so important to taking it to the next level. 

Topics in this episode

• When we put others, or other verions of ourselves, on a pedestal, we automatically see ourselves as less-than
• How you’re inadvertently rejecting yourself right now
• Allowing yourself to look into the future with curiosity and possibility
• We can’t change reality by being frustrated with it
• When you think about your frustrations with your sexuality, how does it feel in your body?
• Coming to a place that what you have right now is good enough
• Being excited about the future of where you can go in your sex life

As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I love sharing this reflection about when we’re comparing ourselves to our past or our future, and how to step into not really seeing ourselves as less-than, or rejecting who you are right now, but truly finding acceptance and love, so that you can lean more into pleasure and really grow from this place.