It's My Pleasure Podcast

In last week’s episode, we began to talk about how self-image affects your sex life. I want to go even further this week and talk about how other people’s opinions can affect your sex life. We have a choice of whether or not we allow unkind comments other people say into our thoughts. Many of our beliefs have been learned by how we were raised, and the messages we got, and the world we live in. These beliefs can greatly influence our fears about ourselves, and especially about our sex, which keeps us from pursuing pleasure and desire.

I want to share with you that the truth is really what we choose it to be. Not caring what others think isn’t easy, but it is the most liberating thing there is. It will free you and allow you to connect more with yourself so that you can go after your pleasure and go after your sexuality.

Topics in this episode:

• You are responsible for the integrity of your thoughts
• The foundation of our “home” and how it affects your...

Today we are talking about body image, which is a hang-up for many of us. I think it is safe to say that most women have been insecure about the way they look, and it creates obstacles for us to create more sexual pleasure or empowerment. This is something I truly love working with women to overcome in order for them to have a love affair with themselves, and to own the beautiful, badass, sexy women they are. Sexy is the relationship you have with yourself, and I want to help you re-build that relationship so you can access the sex you deserve. 

Topics in this episode:

• The narrative in our minds
• The role of self-criticism before and during sex
• Would you say that to someone else? A friend? Your daughter?
• The response of your sympathetic nervous system
• You have to be the one to have amazing thoughts about you.
• Shame is the opposite of desire
• Re-building your self-image happens in stages 

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In last week’s episode, episode 30, we started going through all the topics that have been discussed thus far on the podcast. I thought it would be so fun to recap the information that’s been shared, topics that have been discussed, and conversations so that you can remind your brain of the things we’ve discussed. And by doing so, it can ignite and inspire you to go back and listen, take some deeper notes, and actually apply, implement, and integrate what I talked about in that episode so that you can see real change.

I am so ecstatic and proud of all of the topics we’ve discussed so far, and I am thrilled to bring you even more. Thank you for joining me. I hope you have found these 31 episodes helpful in tapping into your pleasure potential. If you want to take this work deeper, I would love to work with you one-on-one. I currently have a few spots available in this truly transformational journey. If you’re ready, interested, and serious about this...

In honor of today being the 30th episode, I want to focus on 30 key takeaways, one from each episode so far. It is so fun to see all of the things we’ve talked about and the topics and information that have been shared. I know how easy it is to hear something, and it goes through one ear and out the other. So I want to take the time to go through and grab each episode and get the essence from it to jog your memory and remind you some of the things we’ve talked about. This episode will be key takeaways from the first 15 episodes, and next week we will cover the other 15 episodes.

I am so excited for today’s episode because this is an interview I got to do with Buffy Stinchfield. She is an orthopedic physical therapist, specializing in pelvic and women's health for over nine years. Her own journey lead her to be a super passionate advocate for the care and information women receive. Earlier this year I had the pleasure of being a guest on Buffy’s podcast, The Girlfriend’s Guide to Health and Happiness, which you can listen to here. (https://www.pinnaclewt.com/podcast/021-the-power-of-our-minds-to-conquer-chronic-pain-and-even-gain-an-amazing-sex-life)

In this discussion, we talk about how important pelvic health is for overall health, and the impact it can have on you your sex life. Some of the issues Buffy helps resolve include pelvic pain, pain with sex, bladder control, and organ issues. She also shares some of the latest information in pain science research, and how it relates to the mind-body connection.

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In this episode, I want to talk about the belief in the possibility of pleasure. Belief is much harder than we think, and to believe that pleasure is possible eliminates the first roadblock keeping you from it. I share the details of how to know you’re not believing, why it’s so important, and the first steps you can take to begin having amazing sex.

Topics in this episode

• Why belief should be a part of your mental strategy
• Belief can be fleeting
• The role of cognitive dissonance
• Signs you don’t believe pleasure is possible
• Ask yourself, if I believed pleasure was possible, how would things be different?
• Progression of thought starts with possibility
• Recognizing the signs of the mind shift

In this episode, I’m so excited to share with you the conversation I had with Melanie Cristol, founder and CEO of Lorals. In her role as a peer sex educator in college, one product that came up occasionally was the dental dam. It is a flappy sheet of rubber that is used during oral sex on a person with a vagina. It can be inconvenient and uncomfortable to use, and she knew she wanted to create a product to help women and people with vaginas experience more pleasure during intimacy.

Lorals are incredibly silky panties that are designed to maximize sensations and minimize worries while you are receiving oral sex. In addition to sharing her journey from how she went from being a lawyer to an entrepreneur, she also details the personal skills she possesses that prepared her for creating a product in a taboo space.

Topics in this episode

• Difficulties in using and buying dental dams that inspired her to create a new product
• Reasons why people turn down oral sex, and how Lorals can...

This is the last installment of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. In part one we focused on becoming the observer and allowing yourself that ability to start noticing what’s happening in your mind. Last week we talked about purposefully redirecting your attention to the type of thoughts that will deliver your desired results.

This episode we cover what it means to become embodied and how to start experiencing what it’s like to be human in this human form, and opening up to sensations. We focus on what it means to be present to your sensations, and what happens to your brain when you do. I share with you how to tap into and lean these sensations, and 3 practices to help build the foundational skill.

Topics in this episode:

• Definition of being embodied
• Levels of embodiment
• ...

This is part two of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. Part one was about bringing your thoughts to the forefront of your awareness. Once you are aware of your thoughts, you can capture your attention in order to shift your mindset, which we cover in this episode.

Our mindset is made up of thoughts we think over and over that create our beliefs, and these collections of thoughts and beliefs create an overall disposition that will create a reaction to particular events, and can also show up in our behavior. As it applies to sex, your mindset can affect your attitude and disposition. So it is important to take a look at all of the learned beliefs and how you can change them in order to have mind-blowing sex.

Topics in the episode

• Recap of part 1 in the series
• Definition of mindset
• How mindset...

There are three main skill sets needed to create the most mind-blowing sex life and honestly life in general. This episode is the first of three part series and is all about how to become an observer of the mind. My experience as a long time meditator as well as a meditation and mindfulness instructor has allowed me to not only become keenly aware of my mental happenings but to help others do the same. So what does watching your mind have to do with having an amazing sex life? Tune in to find out and how you can start becoming a witness to your mind or hone your skills more so that you can apply them to your pursuit of pleasure.