It's My Pleasure Podcast

When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us away from pleasure, specifically, thoughts about our partners. This is something that I hear all the time from women is that there is something that their partner is doing, or not doing, that is keeping them from finding their partner desireable. I want to share with you that it’s not actually about your partner, and what they’re doing, or not doing. It’s your thoughts about these things that shape how you feel about them. In this episode, I share how to shift your thoughts so that you can get back to sexual pleasure. 

Topics in this episode:

• The kinds of things your partner does that can get in the way of your pleasure
• Your partner is just being themselves, and you have thoughts about it. And then these thoughts create an emotional response.
• Making the decision...

Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last three years, after pivoting from her law career, she has grown her life coaching business to 7-figures. She hosts one of the top-rated self-help podcasts called UnF*ck Your Brain, https://unfuckyourbrain.com/podcasts/, which has been downloaded over 5 million times. She’s truly a fun and witty human that I enjoy talking to so much. 

In this episode, we discuss how to help feminist women create more confidence, of which sex is a huge part, especially in this day and age. We also talk about what has culturally influenced our views of sex and ultimately has created so many blocks to our pleasure. We share what it means to feel sexy so matter what, and how thought-work is key to better sex and so much more. 

Topics in this episode

• Women are taught that their...

This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a feeling based on what we are thinking and that it is through practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. 

Empowerment, on the other hand, is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. When we’re empowered, we’re using the self-confidence we posses, and we direct the way we want our lives to go. In this episode, I share the steps to becoming empowered, how to think and feel as your future self in order to become her, and why sexual empowerment is crucial to becoming a fully empowered woman. 

Topics in this episode

• Healing is the first step in becoming sexually empowered
• Be now who you needed then and learn how to love yourself
• Take...

I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered. In order to access confidence, we must understand and be aware of our thoughts, and hold space for the feelings that we experience. It is through a self-compassion practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. In this episode, I share the process of how to create the thoughts that are necessary to be a confident woman. 

Topics in this episode

• We aren’t born confident
• The opposite of confidence is doubt
• We don’t need evidence ahead of time that we can do the thing we want to do 
• Self-compassion requires:
• Mindfulness of what is going on with our emotions
• Acknowledgment that we are human 
• Kindness
• As you believe in yourself, other people, and their thoughts about you, don’t have to mean...

In today’s episode, I talk with Claire Byrne, a heartbreak coach who helps women stop wanting Mr. and Mrs. Wrong back. She’s the host and creator of her podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and is also a regular contributor to Kourtney Kardashian’s Poosh.com. Claire is also a really good friend of mine. We met way back when we were just getting into coaching, and it has been really great to be on this journey of building our businesses together. 

In our conversation, we cover a number of topics, things I often get asked about sex and heartbreak, emotional availability, and of course pain and healing and pleasure. It was so much fun talking with my friend, and I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. 

Topics in this episode

• When should you have sex after heartbreak?
• What is required in order to heal from heartbreak
• Heartbreak is not a linear process
• Being ok with rejection
• The price you have to be willing to pay for healing and pleasure 
• ...

If you think about this time of year, depending on where you live, something you may experience is snow. This is something that I’m thinking about this week as it’s predicted for Portland. Talking to people about the possibility and hearing the tone they use when they say the word “snow” has got me thinking about how the way we say a word can impact how we feel.

One of the most common responses I get to this podcast is the request to break down some of the concepts I cover into their simplest detail so that you can start applying them to your life. In this episode, I share how getting turned on and accessing your pleasure isn’t about adding anything to your day or your life. We need to pay attention to what’s getting in the way, so we can remove the blocks, and become the sexually pleasured woman you want to be.

Topics in this episode

• How disempowering our thinking can be
• We don’t have to settle. 
• Sex is irrelevant to modern-day life
• When you’re starting something new, that can be exciting. And that becomes more tantalizing than having sex can be. 
• Circumstances are neutral. It’s about how you think about them that will either make them an obstacle or not. 
• What’s keeping you from pleasure?  

Thank you so much for joining. As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to...

As we kick off a new year, I want us to take some time to reflect and evaluate the last year that we had. It’s important to take a look back, to know what is working and what isn’t. And in the realm of sexuality, what is working for you in order to feel like a sexually empowered woman? In this episode, I share helpful prompts to use when thinking about the past year and the goals you want to set for 2020. Let’s make 2020 the sexiest year yet.

Topics in this episode

• 3 Questions:
  • What worked?
  • What didn’t work?
  • What am I going to do differently?
• How to move through negative thoughts and feelings that may arise
• Getting specific with our goals
• Stretch goals, and why they are good for us
• Having a growth mindset
• Be willing to fail
• Productive vs unproductive failure
• What sexual failure looks like
• Not having sex
• Changing your mind and deciding it isn’t worth it
• Letting the “how” get in your way
• Not following through
• Being ok with...

Meditation and mindfulness is the foundation of how I started to become a coach. It’s such a passion of mine and played a huge role in my healing journey. I recently wrapped up a 10-day challenge in my Facebook group, the pleasured woman, called the mindful morning challenge. After completing it, I was inspired to talk with you this week about meditation, its benefits, and how it can help with your pleasure. The purpose of the challenge was to create a foundation in our mornings to be more intentional in order to help us be able to show up throughout the day and create positive change in creating pleasure.

Topics in this Episode

• Difference between mindfulness and meditation
• There are different types of mediation, based on the desire results you are seeking
• Insight meditation focuses on the inner connection between the mind and body
• This focus allows you to notice when your mind has wandered so that you can bring it back
• “I’m showing up for what is”
• How...

‘Tis the season for a lot of feelings. Emotions, and how we deal with them, affect our capacity to experience pleasure. Feelings and emotions come from what we are thinking, either conscious thoughts, or what is in the background. I want to talk about how we often go wrong with emotions, how we can meet them and process them. When we practice feeling, that allows us to get closer to pleasure.

Topics in this episode

• Emotions are labeled by the physical response we have to certain triggers
• Feelings are created by a thought or belief in the brain our brain, and our mind’s interpretation of what’s going on around us or “to” us
• The first step is to be the observer and to notice the quick thought that triggers our emotions.
• How is it that I’m not able to automatically switch my feelings if I’m aware of the thoughts that are creating those feelings?
• Emotions live in the body and may stick around for a while
• The steps to feeling your feelings:...