It's My Pleasure Podcast

I’m going to paint a picture for you. You have spent your day being a high achieving woman, taking care of your business and your kids. It’s the end of the night, and you know that you have sex on the schedule, but it’s one of the last things on your mind. You’ve made a commitment to yourself and your partner, but you are tired and aren’t thinking about sex as something that you want to do. So you decide to follow through, but you cut out foreplay in order to make the sex session as quick as possible so you can get back to whatever else you wanted to do. What if I told you that you are missing out on the most important part?

For most of the women I work with, they have been with their partners for a while, and foreplay is no longer a part of their pleasure toolkit. Our society puts such high importance on penetrative intercourse that it seems like we should just skip ahead to that end goal. But in this episode, I share with you why foreplay is crucial...

So many of the women that listen to this podcast and who I work with in the Better Sex in 90 Days program are high achievers. They come to me and ask me for how they can make time for pleasure when they are already so busy with their careers and their families. In this episode, I am delighted to share with you a conversation I had with my friend and coach, Stacey Boehman. Stacey is one of the most ambitious and high-achieving women that I know. In our conversation, she shares insight into how she intentionally and consistently makes pleasure a priority, both in the bedroom and beyond.  

Topics in this episode

• What it looks like to date yourself, and why you should
• The power in being able to turn yourself on
• Untangling the patriarchy from our pleasure
• Recognizing when other things are taking priority over sex, and recommitting to it
• Building a business as a pleasured woman
• The freedom of an unbound life
• Breaking out of the default mode
• How to get into the moment when he...

Hello, pleasure-seekers! I am so excited to have brought you 100 episodes where I share the mindset tools of diving into, defining, and prioritizing your pleasure. In celebration of this milestone, I wanted to do something a little different and bring my husband George on the podcast. As you will hear in this episode, he may not always be comfortable talking about sex, particularly with an audience, but he has a lot of insight into what it looks like to be on a pleasure-seeking journey from the perspective of being a supportive spouse.

In this conversation, we share with you our love story, some of the important adjustments we have had around conflict, the importance of a growth mindset, and of course, we talk about our sex life and some of the biggest shifts we have made over our 18 years together. I hope that this episode shares with you some helpful takeaways that you can apply to your relationship and can share with your partner to allow for growth and strengthening of your...

Most of us in long-term relationships have faced that time in our lives where it feels like all desire for our partners have faded away. Trust me. It’s not you. You’re not broken. This is a natural thing that happens in our brains as we get comfortable and move through the demands and responsibilities in everyday life. But you can get it back! Just because this is normal and this is what happens, doesn’t mean we have to settle. In this episode, I share my six daily habits to spark desire and get that spark back with the one that you love.

I’ve also been thinking about the issue where it feels like there just isn’t enough time in the day. And one of the first things that tends to go out the window is making time for our sexual desire and pleasure. So I’ve created a new mini-course for you called 3 Simple and Effective Steps to Create More Time for Intimate Connection. We’ll take a look at why you’re not making time for pleasure, why...

Let’s talk about advocacy, what it means to advocate for your own pleasure, and for that of the women in your world! If we take a look at how the landscape of mental health has changed over the past few years, it has evolved from being something hush-hush to something that we now talk about openly. And this has lead to more options, and more solutions to the problems that exist. I want to share with you that this is possible when it comes to pleasure and sexual pleasure!

I share with you how to begin the process of advocating for your own pleasure. You may think that this means speaking up in the bedroom, and that is certainly part of it, but there’s also so much more! I also go into some ways in which we can begin to be pleasure advocates in small ways that, when we all start to do them, become part of a much larger shift for our society and for future generations.

Topics in this episode

• The role that advocacy plays in your pleasure journey
• Your sexual pleasure is...

I’ve got to be honest with you and tell you that I’m a little bit fired up, and there’s something that we can all do about it. There is something that I hear from women all the time, whether they are clients, friends, or from people on social media, I hear them say, “he only wants one thing from me”.  This is not a thought that creates an openness to desire and becoming a more turned-on woman.

Let’s take a look at how this idea of sex being a give and take has been engrained in us from a very young age, and how a shift in our thoughts can really change the narrative around sex within our society as a whole. And not only that, we’ll look at how you can apply these shifts to your relationship and how you can make your pleasure about you, and create the results you are seeking of more passion and connection.

Topics in this episode

• Being aware of our thoughts, and the ones that do not create an openness to pleasure
• Investigating how it...

When was the last time you just stopped and took a second, pause it all? We live such full lives, and our brains are wired to constantly be on the lookout to keep us safe and efficient. And that’s not to mention how bombarded we are with emails, notifications, and constant distractions. All of this working together makes it difficult to connect with ourselves, our bodies, and our pleasure. Today I want to share with you the practice of the pause. Why the pause is an easy and impactful practice both in your sex life and out of it and how to integrate it into your day.

Topics in this episode

• The impact of the distracted brain
• How the pause practice can help you
• Easy ways to integrate the pause
• What this has to do with sex
• How the pause can create more connection with your partner and self
• Discuss the four different types of pauses:

As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be here with you this week. Remember to pause and take stock of what’s happening in our...

If your social media feeds are anything like mine, you’ve definitely noticed a shift in the past few years around mindset and the self-discovery journeys people are taking. However, and you may not have noticed this, but I certainly have, there doesn’t seem to be much of a shift around how we’re thinking about sexuality. For most people, they tend to have a fixed mindset around sex and what that means for them. The power that our mind has on our pleasure and desire is incredible, if we are open to it!

In this episode, I share with you the characteristics of having a fixed mindset versus a growth mindset. I walk you through how to identify each and I share the amazing potential that is awaiting you from a growth mindset, particularly around your sexuality and your pleasure.

If you’re loving the concepts that I’m sharing on the podcast, then come join us in the group program, Better Sex in 90 Days. We take all of this information and this work to...

I want you to know that right now, you can start practicing the skills and going through the processes needed in order to have better sex. Yes! Right now. If you are listening to this podcast, I know it’s because you are looking to make a shift when it comes to the sex you’re having, or may not be having. You know that it’s out there; the connection to your partner, to yourself, confidence, passion, and of course, orgasms. And in this episode, I share with you how to access it all for yourself, how to apply it to all areas of your life, and how to become a fully pleasured and orgasmic woman.

All of this juicy goodness is available to you through my Better Sex in 90 Days program, which kicks off soon! Throughout the 90 days, you get to focus on what you need most and create the results you are looking for, with step-by-step coaching, meditations, modules, and group support. No matter where you are coming to this work or the results you are looking for, I...