It's My Pleasure Podcast

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure podcast we break down 5 steps to help you create real change in your sex life.

Making REAL change is different than being half assed about it, you are saying “oh yeah, that’d be nice” you are saying “I am ready for things to be different” and mean it.

The challenge is change isn’t easy, meaning it requires effort. No it isn’t because you're lazy or you aren’t all the way committed, it simply because the brain resists making changes because it takes energy. And the brain wants to conserve as much energy as possible.

Plus its way easier staying with the familiar, even though the familiar might suck, it doesn’t require you being or doing anything differently than you are right now.

I help women make REAL changes and these are the 5 steps I recommend for anyone ready to stop messing around and wishing things were better, but actually MAKE them better.

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On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast the brilliant Elizabeth Salazar joins me in conversation about how impactful small shifts of the mind can be and her experience of participating in Better Sex in 90 Days.

Elizabeth reminisces about listening to this podcast with her husband a few months back and reflecting on how different things are now in her sex life vs. back then.

She shares some of her own big ah-ha moments and the mental shifts she made that created orgasmic results. Not to mention the impact she believes doing this work will have on her daughters.

Enjoy this candid conversation.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• The Sexy Revamp (FREE 5 Day Online Challenge)
• Better Sex in 90 Days
• Email additional questions to [email protected]

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I answer some of the questions I have received from you - the listeners!

I chose these questions as I feel they are most relevant to many of you and I hope you are able to gain a new perspective on each topic.

Listen in this week as I dive into how to become more playful, what to do if you feel like you are taking to long to become aroused and how to handle having a sex life when you are simply too tired (this listener from young kiddos).

Links mentioned in this episode:

• The Sexy Revamp (FREE 5 Day Online Challenge)
• Better Sex in 90 Days
• Episode #104 Motherhood & Sex: Overcoming Obstacles To Pleasure
• Email additional questions to [email protected]

Working on your sex life can be loads of FUN!

Despite the fact that sex and pleasure tend to be is taboo topics, tied to shame and guilt, growing in this area doesn’t have to be miserable.

Talking about sex, connecting with our bodies and our partners, can be a lot of fun!

In this episode, I bring on two recent graduates of the Better Sex In 90 Days program, Brittany and Lindsay. In our conversation, we talk about why they chose to do this work, some of the impacts it has had on them both in and outside of the bedroom, as well as the safety, joy, and compassion of a group coaching experience.

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On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of challenges, especially when it comes to our sex lives, it can feel like we are on an island all alone. 

In this episode, I discuss loneliness, it’s impact on our pleasure, and how we can peel back from the “otherness” so that we can connect with ourselves and create the result of being a pleasured woman. 

Topics In This Episode:

• How sex being “taboo” to talk about can make our isolation more magnified
• Assumptions of what “normal” looks like
• How we “other” ourselves, and how that “otherness” keeps us from our result
• The curse of the lone unicorn
• Clean pain versus dirty pain

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Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say mean things to ourselves. And this certainly is not an environment where pleasure can enter. I am a recovering perfectionist, and despite all the work I have done in this area of my life, it is still there. The key is to be able to identify those thoughts and create awareness so that we can love ourselves through it. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look at identifying those thoughts, the different areas of our lives where it can disrupt our pleasure, and what we can do about it.

Topics In This Episode

• Perfection is subjective
• What would perfect even look like? Is it even realistic?
• When perfectionism keeps you from setting goals
• The physical impact that damaging self-talk can have on you
• Holding on to this idea of perfect does not serve you
• Creating a container for...

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leigha had already known that there were beliefs from her upbringing holding her back in her sexuality. But having done a lot of work around healing her past already there was still this sense of, ‘I guess this is as good as it gets’. Leigha had been following me on social media and listening to the podcast for a while. She knew she had yet to create the sex life of her dreams and was beginning to question if what she wanted was possible when it came to her sexuality and relationship with her partner. There was a lot of fear of even trying this work, afraid of what it might mean about her relationship and her sexual identity. She is a life coach and had invested time in upleveling her life in other ways, and believed in the power of coaching and was hoping to create growth...

 When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for their own preference, or that of their partners, and they think that this means something about who they are as a person. In this episode, I introduce the importance of exploring our motivations behind wanting to have sex, separating any meaning from the frequency of sex sessions, and yes, I even give you a number. 

The next cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program is starting soon! If you are someone who is unhappy with the frequency of your sex life and you are looking to make a change, I invite you to join us in the group program. This is just one of the...

So you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while now, and you want to take this work to the next level and it’s time to bring your partner into the conversation. Talking about pleasure and your sex life can be taboo and a bit of a minefield when bringing this up with your partner. Sex has a way of making us feel vulnerable in a way that nothing else can. 

In this episode, I share with you how to bring this up with your partner, whether you are the one who wants to take this work to the next level, or, if you are wanting your partner to engage in this work. I talk about creating a safe space for both of you, conversation starters, and what a successful outcome looks like. 

If you’re listening to this podcast and you’re enjoying the content I’m putting out there, I would love it if you would share, rate, and review this show! The more that you can share how this is helping you allows other women to come to this podcast and learn as well. As...

What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about today! She is a dear friend of mine and a marriage coach, who helps high-achieving women have five-star marriages. In our conversation today, we talk about just how crucial communication is for a marriage and the sex within that relationship. 

Maggie breaks down soul-centered communication, how to identify when you or your partner are in the stress cycle, and really how to prepare and have productive conversations with your partner around sex. I really enjoyed this conversation with Maggie and know that this will be so helpful for you when it comes to pursuing your pleasure. 

Topics In This Episode

• How you can make change in your marriage/partnership when only YOU are doing the work
• What is SOUL-Centered Communication?
• How to use this powerful tool right now to have...