It's My Pleasure Podcast

I often hear women feeling bad about speaking up for what they want. This apologetic energy carries into the bedroom, and it can mean feeling bad for saying no or feeling embarrassed. To be a pleasured woman, this is something we need to work through individually and collectively. It is time.  I hope this episode will help you realize how perhaps you are showing up with some apologetic energy in between the sheets and how might be able to shift out of it so you can go and get your pleasure. 

Topics in this episode

• Why we feel sorry in the first place
• The role of cognitive dissonance
• Having the belief that we are in charge of other people’s feelings. 
• What are you afraid of that keeps you from using your voice?
• Delivering our requests with boldness and with kindness.
• Open up the dialogue, without taking responsibility

It is holiday season and I think that I’m not alone with a say people are feeling the stresses. Today I want to hop on the gratitude train because around Thanksgiving there’s so much talk about gratitude, and what it can do for us. I think that it is such an important part of creating more pleasure in your life.

When we’re talking about having a good sex life, it’s not just about the sex we’re having. It’s about creating the internal structure in our brain so that we can open the invitation and it’s easy for pleasure to enter. Focusing on our brain as an internal resource, and asking ourselves: what are the things that we’re working on with our mind on purpose that is going to help us have more pleasurable sex? 

Topics in this episode

• Practicing pleasure on purpose
• Creating a system of resilience
• The opposite of gratitude
• The key is awareness
• Complaining is the ultimate killer of passion and pleasure
• Article by Robert Emmons:...

Today we’re going to talk about the simple concept of enjoying sex and how to focus on enjoying it. As we learn that there’s more enjoyment in something, we’re much more likely to increase our motivation to do the thing that brings us satisfaction. It makes sense why so many women suffer from low desire and wanting to increase their libido. It doesn’t have a reward we are used to experiencing. But it is time for a reclamation to our pleasure and to actually wanting it, because we love it. In this episode I share tips on how to begin to want pleasure, how to open your mind to it, and how to keep it once you have it.

Topics in this episode:

• The reward that comes from sex
• There’s nothing wrong with male sexual pleasure, but there should be pleasure for you both.
• Make it a habit to practice pleasure
• You don’t have to do anything new. You just have to harness your attention to pleasure
• The intention of finding the good 
• Warming up your...

I was talking with one of my clients this week about last week’s episode. Desire and drive are different because it isn’t a biological need, but how does that change anything for us? This week I want to continue the conversation about how to want sex, and understanding our inner voices and what it takes to want to undergo change.

I love hearing your thoughts. It always helps inform what I should spend my time talking about in these episodes and what I want to share. I want to hear your thoughts and follow up questions. Hit me up directly at [email protected]. You can also follow me on Instagram and message me @DanielleSavoryCoaching.

Topics in this episode:

• The thoughts and belief patterns that get in the way of sexual pleasure
• How those thoughts take us to a place of rejection of ourselves and partnerships
• Changing the tone of your thoughts
• Learning how to want sex
• The siren and the sage
• Acting from a place of thoughts that were chosen ahead of time
...

When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that men have a higher sex drive than women. This belief can be getting in the way of your pleasure, and possibly have you think that something within you is broken. In this episode, I dive into where this belief comes from, how it is affecting your sexuality, and how to overcome this belief and be able to tap into your pleasure. 

Listen to this episode and allow yourself to bring some curiosity to these belief systems that you might not have taken a look at when it comes to your sex drive and men’s sex drives. What have you made that mean about your partner? What have you made that mean about you? How is this getting in the way of your pleasure? It is so important to take a pause to look at because these are the things that are going to block you from feeling safe, empowered, and...

Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you realize there’s so much more that goes into having pleasurable experiences and mindblowing sex. In this episode, I explain the importance of having clitoral curiosity and how that can have such a big impact on getting what you want with your sexuality. 

I also want to remind you guys that I’m doing an unbelievable retreat with one of my coaching colleagues Lindsey _______. We are doing a retreat in Palm Springs called the Pleasure and Profit Planning Retreat. We’ll be going in-depth to talking about what it takes to truly create a profitable business, and planning for a super pleasured and profitable 2020. To sign up and find more information go to http://daniellesavory.com/pleasureprofit-retreat. 

Topics in this episode: 

• Defining...

Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, the foundation. Sometimes you have to look into what is going into the foundation of before you can even start the inquiry. When we’re beginning with the inquiry, there has to be a level of comfort with your sexuality. So in this episode, I discuss how to start with the foundation of pleasure, and how to determine what you want. 

In day two of the masterclass, we covered the investigatoin, and day three was all about the conversation. Each session also comes with a set of resources that I provide to help guide you through to the end goal. To see all three trainings and get access to these resources, go to daniellesavory.com/training.

Topics in this episode:

• How pleasure impacts so many aspects of our lives
• Redefining what it means to be selfish, versus selfless
• Why we...

In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she got interested in being a life coach, and through that coaching, she heard from many of her clients that they were having difficulties in their sex lives. Since there isn’t much sexual education and training in medical school, she found herself doing a lot of independent research, which quickly developed into her pursuing a certificate program to become a certified sex coach.

I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. Sonia about some of the most common concerns for women, the difference in sex coaching for midlife as opposed to other phases of life, and how imperative it is for women to give themselves permission.

Don’t forget, if you want help getting clarity on what it is you want in the bedroom, please go to https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining to access free training...

I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may be hard to understand the power of what’s being said. It’s powerful to hear other people’s experiences and the transformations they’ve gone through, and I want to share some of that with you. I also want to explain some key differences between sex therapy and sex coaching. Having a coach is like having a personal champion, and through these client stories, you get to see how focusing on their sex life opened up to personal growth in every aspect of their lives.

Topics in this episode

• Value of sex coaching
• The feeling of worthiness
• What it’s like being powered in your decisions
• What’s standing in the way of you getting what you want?
• How to be present, one of the hardest things
• Training your mind during sex

So far in this podcast, I’ve talked a lot about big-picture stuff, like how pleasure can change your brain for the better. And also, how to have the right structure and environment so that you can create desire and pleasure can enter. At this point, I would love to start getting more detailed on what actually comes up with some of my clients and how I coach them through it so you can start doing the same. What I really want to talk about is this idea that you have so much going on, you have so much on your plate, the predominant thought you have when it comes to sex is, “I just don’t have time for that” or “I’ve got so much to do”. What I want to show you is how to prioritize your “why” in order to make time for what you need.

Topics in this episode

• Time is just a construct
• When we feel busy, we don’t have time
• There has to be a compelling reason
• Why is it important to you? What impact will it create?
• The beneficial...